Sunday, June 20, 2010

OF BONDAGE AND LIBERATION

I have been listening to the Bhagvad Geeta for one week,each month.
Last week it came to an end, the 18 chapter was done, a lifetime ambition of mine was fullfilled , to hear the whole Geeta at least once in my life.
In it there was a verse on bondage and liberation, which made me think.
The two are so paradoxical , yet one cannot exist without the other..

To start at the very basic level, 'I sometimes say that I feel liberated, I dont do any housework, the servants manage everthing..ok great feeling, but then, what happens when the food served is not good, and the family complains.. don't we feel bad?
Bondage to the ego?
If instead, one did their housework, for the short time it takes to do it, and yes it may have felt like a bondage at that time, are we not then liberated forthe whole day, and we don't have to hear criticism for work /food not properly done.
Simple logic..
This is at the level of a householder.

At the next level, of relationships...
Sometimes we feel trapped in certain relationships, be it on the personal level, or at work, like with a boss.
If we were to shift the focus from saying that I am trapped, and am here for financial reasons, or because it is my duty, etc, the hundred reasons we give ourselves to feel the victim..and thereby feel "bonded"
and
Were to shift the focus to what that situation offers me in return, e.g in a job, the freedom to not have to worry about my finances, once I get home, and enjoy the rest of my time,
or
In relationships ,to view the overall situation from the angle of the freedoms that I get/enjoy as a result of that relationship..,
whereas we tend to view the small parts where we feel that we are the victims, instead of the larger whole picture...and the benefits we get..
And
In the ultimate analysis,
What are we actually bonded to..?
OUR MIND..
OUR IDEAS ..
OUR SENSE OF WHAT I THINK , IS THE ONLY WAY, AND THE RIGHT WAY...
So actually we have created our own sense of bondage...
and we are the only ones who can liberate ourselves
by..
Understanding that people are a product of their own karmas, vasanas(desires), and are here to fullfill their own life pupose.
That all of us are goverened by our karmas, and that our nature, be it Satwick( pure, thinking type) ,
Rajsic(action oriented)
or Tamasic ( dull witted, indolent, lazy)
is also the result of past karmas,
and that we act under the force of our nature, that it propels us forward,
like water gushing downstream...
(As lord Krishna tells arjun, you are a Kshatriya (warrior), and it is your nature to be rajsic, and therefore even if you dont want to fight, your nature will propel you to fight, if not here, then elsewhere, so pick up your weapons and fight..)
So once we can ...
understand and accept people for what they are,
understand that people cannot but help act the way that they do ,
that our ideas belong to our own mind and ego,
and that it is best not to get to attached to them, and be "bonded "to them, but to let go and be "liberated"
For each one comes with their own karmas which create their destiny.

Therefore why should I dissipate so much of my energy in trying to impose my ideas/thoughts on them..

When I view life with this attitude..
I will then become FREE, LIBERATED,
and
enjoy the peacefullness and quietetude of my own mind.

That I will be free of anxiety and distractions..in the knowing that nothing is in my hands,
and
that my only duty (purushart) is in keeping my mind free from my ego, my anxieties..and all the negative tendancies that arise in one's mind..
To to do this..
All I need to do is SURRNDER to the lord,
knowing that he is doing the best for everone according to their needs..their karmas, their vasanas..
For then I become truly LIBERATED..freed from the BONDS of ego, attacments, desires, anxieties..etc.
And reach that wonderful stae of BLISS as extolled in the scriptures.

OM TAT SAT


we are liberated



Sunday, May 16, 2010

The Value of an Apology

APOLOGY

I was down with a terrible attack of Gastro entrites.

My G.P. had been treating me, but the diarrohes continued.

It was a Sunday, and the G.P. is not available on Sundays.

In a panic stricken state, I called Dr.Chichgar, who I know personally, since he is my friend Dilnar's husband.

He went out of his way, came over , and gave me an injection.

I was to have 2 more ,on Monday and Tuesday to complete the course.

On the advice of my G.P. I did not contiue the course.

When The good Dr called to find out how I was doing, I told him that I had not taken the injection...



Naturally he was livid!!



I sent him an sms apologizing about my irresponsible behaviour..to which he graciously replied "No problem"



Today is Sunday again, and I was back to sqaure one, the diarrohea had returned with a vengance...



With great trepidition I called Dr Chichgar..

He was very nice on the phone, and came and gave me an injection, even bringing the medicine, needle and syringe.



Also he did not charge me, either for the visit, or medicine.



Which made me think...

1) What a nice person the Dr is..

2) The value of an Apology..

Mine was a sincere apology, sent immediately after a wrong action commited on my part.

It was accepted and the transaction completed.



What if one were to apply the same principle to people whom we live with ,and interact with, on a daily basis.

That is ,to apologize as soon as one is made aware of a mistake commited by oneself..irrespective of whether the apology is due to ones spouse, children, servant, whoever...



Instead ,we get lost in our Ego..



How could the person have spoken so badly or said such things..and the past looms up like a mountain before us, made up of previous hurts and insults...and we hide behind it, and refuse to apologise!





Why dont we take each transaction/interaction for what it is, and react from that situation?

Why do we let "The Ego"come in the way?



A HEARTFELT APOLOGY can take away so much pain..

I think one of the greatest lessons we can pass on to our children is

"Saying Sorry from the Heart!"